The other day I was having a conversation with a friend. At the time they were lamenting about their current financial situation just as we were passing some rather expensive beachfront homes. They made a comment and used the term “have and have nots”, presuming that one class is suppressing the other class.
I was a bit taken aback by this line of conversation as I have always considered this friend to be a wise and no nonsense kind of person. I left the statement go as I know sometimes when we are just letting off steam and thinking out loud, we let things fly that we really didn’t mean. I turned the conversation to something else.
Later that night when I was alone I thought about that statement, the “have and have nots”. It’s certainly been used for political gain by the so called “haves” to work up those who consider themselves the “have nots”. But as I thought about it and how my friend had gotten themselves into their financial situation, I knew and I really think they honestly knew, it had nothing to do with someone else taking what was theirs.
Then I thought it’s not the “have and have nots”. It’s the “did and did nots”.
I’m not sure who first coined the phrase “have and have nots”. I tried to research it online and after I got through 3 pages of search results about the Tyler Perry TV show (which says a lot about our society) I came upon this article by Earl Nightingale.
Here he confirms my earlier thoughts about the “did and did nots” versus the “have and have nots”.
“I’ve discovered that the only difference between the people who earn big incomes and those who earn small incomes is that those earning big incomes decided to earn more. Without the decision to earn more, you can’t possibly think of ways to increase your income.”
He also says:
“What’s more, you cannot simply make the decision once and then relax. You must make the commitment again and again, and continually overcome your fears to turn back toward safety.”
These statements hit home for me. Through the years I have come up with, what I thought to be, good business models, but I chose not to go after them. I did not pursue them. Instead, I did decide to stay with the safety of my well paid job making a larger income for others.
“Have and have nots”, is just a great excuse perpetuated by some of the “haves” to keep those who feel they are the “have nots” in debt to the “haves”.
You are a product of the decisions you make, plain and simple. Good stuff happens and bad stuff happens, but what makes you who and what you are, are the decisions you make when reacting to the stuff that happens outside of your control.
We will always have the so called, “have and have nots”, the rich and the poor and all those in between. That is a fact of life.
For there will never cease to be poor in the land. Therefore I command you, ‘You shall open wide your hand to your brother, to the needy and to the poor, in your land.’
For you always have the poor with you, but you will not always have me.
God has given each and every one of us the ability to rise and be rich, rich in spirit and righteousness. God has given each of us the will and the spirit to break free of poverty, or lower class, or middle class or upper middle class or one percenters lives.
So the poor have hope,
and injustice shuts her mouth.
There are countless stories of those who have risen from the depths of poverty and oppression and have gone on to do great things in their lives. They come from all races, religions and backgrounds. The common denominator is they decided to do something about their situation. They realized the gift of life has bestowed upon them the power to control their life. They know it’s not controlled by someone high on the hill or in an ivory tower. They know that no one else, no matter what promises they make to them, will make it all better.
They DID something and DID NOT make excuses.
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